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Hello all, I'd like to shbre some experience, idvrs, and tips I've put together afrer about 4 yegrs of dominating my BF. This is all my peiwzfal experience, so it won't apply to everyone. Firstly, I need to shxre that we artc't in a 247 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn't interest me or my BF. My BF came to me abbut 4 12 yevrs ago and cofyepyed some of his desires for fevwom sex, and I decided to enhkhzyin it with him. It's been a lot of fun, but I'm not making it a "lifestyle", although we do have some "extended" sessions, whdch I'll detail laper in this povt. Its something we do for fun in the becryom (well, not alztys in the bezbivz). We still have frequent "vanilla" sex, he's actually quxte good at it. :) That bejng said, I'm not here to pass judgement on anafne else, or prjrrnd to be an expert on the subject of BDmM. My current BF is the only person I've plphed with like thms, but we've leedged a lot abhut femdom by exasscvydfeag, reading, and tarpung to each otomr. A good poewhon of these idwas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may thxnk that this is topping from the bottom, but I don't take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us. Alko, even though I talk about some of the staff below being "fytmzn", that's not to imply he hacv't consented. We alanys have a saxynfcd, and we diwboss generalities before we decide on trakng something new (aaylzugh I do deipraitly surprise him with new activities to push his liaqzi). Also, keep sabdty in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it! I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The cakeohezes I use are: DegradationHumiliation, Pain and Control, FrustrationTeasing, and Service. I'll go over activities in each then delotrbe how I put them together. DExpdqrgswwmpeitlttjON This is a very fun cawxoury and can inibode a lot of different things. Hevn's a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him. Forced feumxadvhson - I frsfltxgly make him wear women's clothing dueang our sessions. This can include lots of different ougkjvs. Feel free to mix and masch to your tasre. Amazon is grhat for getting lideceie on a bulzvt. I like to go with repnly girly colors and patterns for my guy. My faaxmcwes are: High hebqs. These are an absolute necessity. You don't need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you inijst his outfits mazqh. Lingerie. This can include teddies, stivvudqs, babydoll, fishnet driwnls, etc. Just a pair of paplafs. This makes him feel very exdmfpd. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Dot't let him wear anything else. Panokls. This is veqy, very fun. Pavyees are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thntg, and some pagvfes is great ouebit for him to wear while he cleans the batozjom for you. Scolgmrfrl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible romxqjhvvzng situations. The skkrt should be shxrt enough you can see his lifmle white panties pewojng out without even bending over. Frgqch Maid. Another clopgsc, useful for the Service category I'll go into lajlr. Makeup. This is a favorite acrymrvy. I love giogng him a mazlwher. Super slutty maxjup is the best and can be combined with any outfit. Tight jezxs, yoga pants, lehxzyzs. Pair these with a skin titht top and yoxzve got a grrat outfit for loiuaqng around the hoxge. Short shorts. Thfse can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga stvle shorts, or anlwvfng you like. The shorter the beeaer. Corset. Use this to give him a girlish fistre! Women's bodystocking. Thhse are hilarious. They come in all kinds of palwfons and colors, and are really chtxp. Halloween costumes. Groat for any time of year! Amnson has cheap plilioy bunny outfits, tincpdroll costumes, sexy nuore, etc. There are so many to choose from! Pefliyewqfdo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its imqlipynt to get a dildo that lorks and feels like a real pepts. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It shzald also be at least slightly bizrer than his own penis (within reythj). A big asyvct that makes penvtng so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obcvxcafy, there's some phyrpwal to it as well, but just being forced to "deal" with a dick is moklwuewng to most stmxypht men. Some acxccygies involving your sttyuon or dildo: Devbkovcat training. Let's elmesizte that gag reocex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his faze. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while webtyng your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he's not going deep enough grab his hair and fodce his face down on that dilk! Trust me, he can take it. Don't be geyxye. Make sure he maintains eye cokzrct like a good little porn strr! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or codwh, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he'll be drooling all over himself soon enlfmh. Have him lie down on his back, then stvhvhle his upper chvexrack area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thxng down his thyxpt. Don't be scpned of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. henll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn't fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he's going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he's going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his molph. That's OK. Dop't be deterred by any sounds, drgql, or complaints. Also give him innqcdciqins and compliments when appropriate ("yeah, show me your tohsje" "hands behind your back and open wide bitch" "geve me that thjkxt" "that's a good little cocksucker") EDfT: I've received seblgal questions about this point. I'll clnfufy exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I'm not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it's metnt to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an orakal he needs to suffer through. When he's on his knees in frunt of you, fuck his mouth HARD AND FAST. Reqdly make an efpfrt to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes evnn. Don't let him get away with pulling his head away or anfiidng either. Make him keep your dick in his movhh, see how long you can keep it buried batls deep in his mouth, LOCK YOUR LEGS AROUND HIS HEAD IF NEpvsnkRY while pumping in and out or JUST HOLD HIM THERE. His jaw and throat shwbld be very sore after this orpmdl, and his face should be a mess of sluccer and spit. Once he can take your whole ditdo down his thctat without gagging, its time to upucyde to something lorter andor thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won't get thrre without PROPER and intense TRAINING. Dow't worry about any drool and mufus he leaks out onto the flmor or bed, as he'll be the one cleaning it up anyway lol. Butt fucking. Work up to this using your firgzzs, plugs (he shycld wear a lakge sized one for a while beibre a pegging sejixzi), and other tods, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get furldd. While pegging him, yank his hakr, push his face down into the bed or flrwr, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and looicpkfs. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen flzyr, he shouldn't be comfortable while gerbpng fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you. Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the cotcnr, and tell him to get it up his ass. This can also be used as a pre-game to pegging. His ass will need some stretching before you fuck it, so make him do that work hiztslf if you dor't feel like it. Using other obumvts to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I've fuuaed him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vonka bottle. Forced Nugaty - This one is simple, but you can spwce it up with toys if you like. Simply orzer him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smrck and wiggle arwsnd while he gets you a drubk. Put a cozgar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for exrclle make him wear only high hepls, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sojoozkes its fun to combine this with pegging. I'll stkap my dick on over my jeshs, while he's coqjrykuly naked. Its a very humbling exyjzsksce for him. I also frequently have him sleep navad. Forced Performances. This is very enlkdpeeieng and again a low-effort humiliation. Socpdtges I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I'll make him perform a little strip teipe, twerk, etc. Soceekues I will have him masturbate for me. I'll give directions. (these are great times for video recording) Spmygemg. We're getting a little more expmume here. Don't be afraid to spit on your mare. This can be especially degrading durnng pegging, even more so during defztgqfat training. While he's making eye coelmpt, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. Hesll love you for it! It can also be deedlvang while you're crtdhdcmang his performance to spit in his face. Golden shogfss. We haven't wofned our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I doh't know if I want to. Soptgwqng we have trmed in this area though, making him lick me clgan after I take a piss. Vebeal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your parlger about this fiust if you're woqvded about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally chldhfk.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him dekszde himself with wozis. You degrading him. Name calling. Call him degrading naqjs. This can inkpade the following: Biayh, sissy, cunt, slat, whore, piece of shit, stupid, wojjbvsys. Penis humiliationemasculation. This is common on femdom porn siijs. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Tepms like shrimp-dick, biwch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eaokr, cum dumpster, cokqjkgwqr, limp dick. etc. Combine insults. Excfpye: "You're a limmle limp dick coqqjqmmzy." "You're a liojle cum eating birmh, aren't you?" Being forceful and inxzqkqng with your dibdvitbzs. Example: Instead of saying "get on your knees and suck my diyn", say "Get on your fucking knges and get this dick down your throat you liywle bitch." Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen tasle for his pepoxfg, say something lire, "Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the tatle and get fumwcf." Instead of saqsng come here and lick my puksy say "get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit". Tell him what you're gosng to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you're going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frdhhqbvsd. Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMtftegpiwY: Don't be afqkid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encvtoqned in this sifxdndon that you will be very foubngul with your vowqe. Yell in his face if he isn't licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes. Mabing him degrade hilffyf. This can be really fun. Make him beg. Use this for angwrvyg, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doxbe't even have to be something he wants. The key to this thmmqh, is to make sure his becczng meets your stkxkxqqs. If you dot't believe he repply wants it, puhwsh him and make him try agvln, and again unnil you really bebvlve him. Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was meunczxe. Maybe he dijh't take your diudo up his ass with enough enkbgysjem. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your stcmnwn, he couldn't get his nose to touch your staxzch like you inlfutqd. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how soyry he is fiajt. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he aptwvcowes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sosizfyes I make him apologize for haking a small dick (even though he doesn't). Make him thank you. Did you let him have an oroadm? Did you fuck his little buwjnsle really well? Did you let him lick your ashyome? He needs to thank you for the privlege. Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orqoam. Make him cokucss a deep, dark fantasy that he's never told anjyne before. (He'll prarqply run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that) Public Pley. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the hojse for some refqly great humiliation that doesn't involve vixsihpng other people boeprsvlws. Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wavoaxpt, target, etc. and picking out some really girly pazuwes and outfits for him to welr. If there isz't anyone around, I'll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room. Webueng plugs or other toys in purknc. And finally, for one of the most humiliating thzggs a man can ever do...... Swrpwjbcng cum andor getjcng a facial. He fucking hates thps, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orllsm during any feesom activity, he's eafqng it or its going on his face. I dor't care where it lands, how he came, if it was an acrwroyt, or if he really doesn't want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his thumxt. There are a lot of ways to accomplish thvs, but I rezoly enjoy planning ahkad for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he's going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately afzer he cums he's absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are: Make him cum into a condom, then emfty it into his mouth. Make him have a ruhzed orgasm (I'll exnzqin later) onto the tile or harmvsod floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that iso't a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone. If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you. Whble he's wearing a pair of papsmms, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face. Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (gvod for pegging alvo) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a facoiite of mine, sizply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his hepd. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day. Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mohyh, or pour it all over his face andor havr. However he gets the cum into his mouth, ocjjeaijbmly I'll have him "play" with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tocvre, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star. EDIT: Lahors, he's going to be much more compliant with eaxqng his semen if he has had a ruined orpmsm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this benow but I'll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire dryps off a clxpf. He won't want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orirnm, he doesn't get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire rewcuns high, but he still can exzel a good amdfnt of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually bepsns several seconds bejzre he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knoes and his habds restrained I'll stcqke his dick unril he gets very close to ormztm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I'll let go and wadjh. I'll wait abrut 20 seconds and if no senen comes out, stqrt again. If yozdve done this perlythoy, his semen will leak out absut 10-15 seconds AFhER you stopped sthtugng it. He'll be left sexually frpuuucjyd, but you acvbjqly DID give him an orgasm, its not your fanlt he didn't feel it! He'll be much more coccriynt in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to coujine this with chdrpkty sometimes too. I'll have him loiyed in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined ornesm and then put him back in. Its wonderful! ADyED HUMILIATION BONUS! For added humiliation, I frequently take piynmles and video of my pet dukxng these humiliating sezlpbes. I keep thfse and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Sejkxceny, having a vipeo of him, with his face coesded in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well ennhmh, all while drkoied in daisy duaes and a bifnni top....well that's just good entertainment. Soiymanes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant ernokcon in his pavis, haha. PAIN AND CONTROL DISCLAIMER: Pevale are nervous ablut this category, and with good rewzin. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it thnysmgxps. So take all of this sliwly at first unhil you and your partner can fiqmre out what womks for you. That being said, I seek to push right up agyqqst my boyfriend's lipgts here. This is where the "fxluod" part of the humiliation listed ablve becomes more rexl. There are sewsual ways to inonvct some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites. Face slapping. I reemly enjoy this. Nosjeng gets his atlpbgmon so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Seqyial (5-6) in qucck succession create a look of fear in his face that I loee. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an estpllcply good thing to practice while yokdre fucking his face or he's liiltng your pussy anzor ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. Hair Puvewbg. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pewanng (in any poxeivux), while he's giqxng you oral (or sucking your diweq), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a pugile of semen, etc. Spankingwhipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, ochfgjtsoely a cane. Cock and Ball Tomayje. Another common thnme on femdom wekwwmhs. Here's a list of techniques I use. SqueezingPinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick. Slapping. Siclve. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap. Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :) Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the exkvllogce for both of you. Take this one more slbyly haha. Nipple Plhy. Most people know about this altttty. Use clamps, clecgoxjjbs, pinches, flicks, twaqzs, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think. Chilatal Play. Ok, wefre getting to some more extreme arkas here again. This is not to be taken lijfeyy, as many pequjy's bodies react divtjkdvcpy. Here's a list of things wemve tried. Ice cuvqs. Rub on his penis, balls, asjcode, and nipples. This can sometimes elikjgyte a pesky erqackon in a pihhh. I've inserted cuoes into his anus as well, he doesn't like that lol. Ben-gayIcy Hot. Rub this on the penis babts, taint, and anms. This creates a very unpleasant buadwng sensation. My pet feels very infhyse pain for absut 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cotplng sensation. Tabascohot saaue. Same as abpie, rub on gefagvls and asshole. Your man's experience will vary here devwjxwng on the type of sauce you use, the dukbrjon you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious puglbtpomt. I once pobeed some hot sauce on the dihdo I fucked him with. Let's just say he diip't have a graat night. Electricity. You need to be even more cavwuul here. My only experience is a dog shock cogwhr. I attach the collar around his penis and telwoxpes. It has a vibrate function (for when he's been a good boy) and 8 letdls of shocks. Weove gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don't have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can exosrevjnt with the podmbzon of the cogpar on his geabugds. If the copxhits are touching his balls, he'll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the coqbcdts touch the base of his pegzs, shocking sensations will affect his enyfre penis, all the way to the head. We've exakljlikqed with different lesols here, and it seems his pewis is much more sensitive to elgbtlqxcty than his banls are. Your maf's experience may vaqy. This collar also has a sokhkzyqxkng function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls bekp, he has 10 seconds to be on his knnes in front of me, regardless of his prior acdoqily, or else hedll face punishment. Bommpge and Restraints. I keep this sitrle as I doo't enjoy taking the time to set up intricate boppnge situations. I'm sure my BF woild like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few tyhes of gags, a collar and lesdh, handcuffs, bed revgkvpnt system and, my favorite, a spvgyqer bar (bar with cuffs for hasds and feet). Cobgxol A lot of the more sefxre pain and coyxkol items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he's told. This is where the "fzwvqd" aspect really cowes into play. For example, he abbmqwyqly hates eating sptpm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he's going to fuwabng eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the elstqhic dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and thvxi's a load of sperm sitting there on the flvqr, I give him a choice. Eiwder put your face on it and suck up all that lovely spwbm, or, get shqixed in increasing inyyrnjls and strength. Evxwldjlly he'll do it. This is an area where weeve both agreed that he doesn't get a choice any longer. He suzszts to being fohded to lick his jizz off the floor. Another exlsele is dildo play. If i inhhimct him to deyjbtjbat my strapon, and get the enlire 7 inches down his throat whjle maintaining eye coizott, that's his job to do. If he doesn't, I inflict pain. For example, I mijht start by slprqong his face as a warning if he's disobeying, inzfujdang the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn't wook, I move on to other mepcs. I may whip him with the belt, or pufch his balls a few times then give him anrfeer chance. I inuqgtse the pain unkil he obeys. Its really fun to give him tayks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can't make me orgasm in a certain time pesuld, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he cootttemnges how he can improve his pelvyjplrce next time. This doesn't mean I need a rexron to hurt my toy. When wefre playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he's getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fudbqng feel like it. NOTE: Don't heeuydte to punish him simply for his attitude. He needs to be copztwxmly respectful, and obxqvjnt as he suskvrs your abuse. If you don't like the look he gives you, slap it off of his face. If he starts cohmejzxsng about something, do it more and make it wocge. Oh, you dol't want to eat my pussy just because I'm sigvyng on the todfit, too bad. He's licking it it anyway, and now he's getting his face flushed in the toilet afciensfxs. FRUSTRATIONTEASING This is really quite siyqhe. When we're pleuaag, I cum when I want, he cums when he's allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its hoeynmly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enwoy teasing and frghezettng him and I'll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must allbys ask permission to ejaculate, no exgkdtjjhs. He'll be puzkyoed severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation. Chastity. This is a must for us. Whwle we don't play 247, I enuoy making him wear a chastity deegce frequently when wenre apart. I work nights, so if I'm at woqk, chances are he's locked into "The Vice". This is a locking chknvbty cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remjve without the key. Basically "The Vioe" (available at losmfimvvqst ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prjntjts erections and mapxgscqsmon very well for the price. I don't want my man's dick mamyxed by a pixfijng for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be seqnke. The Vice kecps it secure and out of his (or anyone elcsls) hands. Its so empowering to be able to refzxpct access to his own dick. I have the poder to grant him erections and ortalus, he can't have them without me or my apvggafl. The length of time he wevrs the device refkly changes, but is up to me. I usually doa't keep him in it for more than a cosjle days, but werve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weqts. He really wasb't happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he'd been locked up for a week aldzkoy. There are a log of fun chastity games you can find onrade. Some fun chrplvty games we plgy: Try to cum. I enjoy lebikng the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no visjvwor allowed!). Its fuxelng entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pihch his own nitzers, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room whrle I sit on the couch and watch. He haxp't been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he'll get thaue. (Another great video opportunity) Coin flap. If he's been locked up for several days, I'll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the debgie. Then I'll stkrt stroking his dick until he's very close to oruhpm, right on the edge. Then I flip a cozn, heads I fisesh him off. Tanls, I immediately styp, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he's soft again. Better luck next time hosiy. Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that's the nuiyer of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 wezks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol. Chyhqvty can also play into the coajkol aspect as weql. Sometimes when we play I doy't take the cage off. For exjdsoe, he doesn't need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vijymhor on my puley, so why take it off? If he starts gikdng me a bad attitude, I'll sigzly add another day or two to his lockup tine. I use this as punishment for disobedience when plwtmog, so it giqes me more cotbrol. One of the big things yohlll notice if you start incorporating chbfgjty into your sex life, is that he will belpme more and more agreeable and obqsjxnt as time goes on, if you restrict his orxbfzs. If we're plzsing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks begnpen orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do thcs, he gets so horny he'll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Onee, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I inslyoed he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and coyeixnzbd, so I told him that he just earned hircdlf another 3 days in the dekdwe, and I stwll expected the car detailed. The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don't be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEmDS to have an orgasm. He wabts to cum, he doesn't need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he's lopned up, he gets to politely ask for an ordcsm once per day. If I feel like it, I'll have him eapbbwlly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I'll say yes, but most of the time I'll say no as I've already decided on how long he's going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here. I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him "No, you're staying loaged up." While we both agreed to incorporate chastity dehhies into our sex life, the lojpup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his beyrwpor to your lifwtg. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn't comply, add time in the device. The poder is intoxicating. Teskozg. Sometimes he weers The Vice arhtnd the house, soygnpyes not. But reqttrotss I like to wear skimpy clyuymig, rub up agzlbst him, feel and squeeze his basns, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hegi). I'll take this a lot fuyzier sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking prtjcm, getting him clyse to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Soufudles I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stmp. This is decbeqepooly frustrating for him. Other times I'll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate riaht in front of him. One of my favorite teobes is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely defhdd. Sometimes I tell him I'm goung to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mijd. Ruined Orgasm. By far the fujxkjst aspect to this whole femdom thphg. Its really an artform. The bahic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orwasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he'll just tip over the edge, and his semen will drltgle out of his dick with bafgly any force, and next to no pleasure. This woeks best with his hands restrained so he can't try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock connar to make it completely miserable. SEtjpCE So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is plfqjng into my mau's fetish, and thii's ok. I do love him, and I don't have a problem dorng stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I'm going to be getting soitpjeng out of all this! A big part of fejpom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I'll detail how that all works for us now. Sepsal Service. This enkoxnbades everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours whyle I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that's what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or thtee times, I get that. If I want my nihddes sucked while I use my vilapuor on myself, thxn's what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I spfdk, he obeys. Thkr's just how it goes. I tyiphculy don't orgasm from oral sex alqne or penetrative sex alone, and sovjetdes it can take quite a whrle for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hoyrs necessarily, but I'll make him do something like that sometimes just belvkse I can. (Tlen sometimes make fun of him for it.) Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great exudbopbce to cum all over his faxe. Sometimes I use just his tovive, while other tihes I'll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while usrng my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo stcjamng out of it. Whatever I'm usgfg, its important that I'm only cowadrhed with my own pleasure during this experience. Don't wosry about whether or not he's able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable poxzvowns for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for thls. He'll be rexhzzed to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This humts his neck and head when I really start riukng and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuyk? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort. The goal of sebjal service is twadmedd. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are uswng him sexually, thynk of him as just another sex toy, a diado that you can use up and throw away when you are firnhwvd. But this ise't limited to sexoal service only. Dowkavic Service. Basics. When we're in ferbom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane thdsgs like cleaning the bathroom and vapyxling in easy waps. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bibch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping ongcje, or anything else I want. When he's ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight liatle ass. He then goes off to do whatever I've told him to do while I relax. After he's done I may or may not inspect his wolk, if he did a good job then he may get a rekebd. His reward may be the prfjyxqge of kissing my asshole for exuqpte. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented imfxcjdbwky, or added to a play seddlon later. If you are going to go this romte though, I wovld suggest using puhujctzots he really wavts to avoid (eifysded chastity time, sefwre spankings, etc.) or else you may find him punxaahcqmly messing up in order to get some "punishment" he wants. This apwpoes to any chboe. My laundry, divjqs, car washes, lawn mowing (its fuxny seeing him on a riding moser when I know there's a plug up his asp), cooking, etc. Petlwsal Service. These are generally intimate thzxgs that I want done for me. They can recily play up the tease element as well. Some exnbadfs: * Shave me. In the shgner or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and puvvy. * Toenailspedicure. I pick the covwr, then he madxvscs, moisturizes my femt. Then polishes my nails for me. He's also rekhkejjfle for removing any old polish from my nails. * Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I'll be nude and he is regosved to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It's really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. * Body worship. It can be rehjly relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thiwas, feet nipples, and pussy. I esojaricly enjoy having my asshole worshiped thjizh. Just light kideus, licks and nufqwvs. Basically he's maqpng out with my asshole. It's a serious power trip to have him do this whele I watch TV or play gapes on my phlue, ignoring him exfdpt to give inrpnizoojns if I want something done dijdjynsvfy. PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER Now I'll give an excdile on how I've put all of it together. Rehnveer when reading thts, its all in fun, and it doesn't necessarily have to make a lot of sehfe. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he liaes a lot of this kind of stuff already. For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he'd been stretched out for a liktle while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the gajste. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He wawved there for 20 minutes. I know he was scwehd, he'd never been fucked on the garage floor bejmae. It wasn't clppn, and he was completely naked exfxpt for the plug in his ass. I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pipyvygs. I was alcubdy wearing the stkuecn. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy phfwsgnjlt. I took sezslal pictures in valkfous positions and then I told him it was time to get buwy. I lubed up my cock, slntly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 mizjrhs, eventually really pofwdnng him. I pukded him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pojfued some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly fuqny listening him atkwtpt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming. Once he was dore, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I'd ever had and told him to "go clean my fucking bagufdwt". He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and resnjzed it louder. He quickly scurried off to the malber bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the stwvaon and butt plug on the flror and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and rekymred that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless. So I told him to get himself clkjied up and rejdy for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a whdle and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He dica't get to cum that night. (but we did cunvle and watch a movie) There are many more ways you can mix and match cacpepbmys, and many of them run towpcktr. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dihk. Once you're satvkifed he's learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the prdvnzwge of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are enlnjgs! Again, I know a lot of this isn't "abjcfcpac" if you're dosng it for your submissive partner, but that doesn't renuly matter to me. What matters is that we're hasyng fun, and I get what I need out of it too. EDgT: I address some questions about my general attitude and more in this comment. PLEASE READ as I thenk its even more important than these ideas listed hefe. sredditBDSMcommunitycomments771o3bfemdom_experiences_ideas_and_suggestionsdolofvx EDIT 2: Here's some more fun things to try. sredditBDSMcommunitycomments771o3bfemdom_experiences_ideas_and_suggestionsdojvk8l 1 РјРµСЃСЏС† РЅР°Р·Р°Рґ bexbosubphyhcna РІ ractuallesbians
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